Blog# 6

I think having children is a great responsibility in this 21st century's context. We all dream about having a family and children but i am not just prepared for this at least for some years because for me, career comes first. It's not that i am trying to escape from a responsibility of having a family and children but in my opinion we all have to think that whether you will be able to give your children enough time and care that they deserve? If not then there is no point of having children. My parents got married when they were 21 years old the they had their first baby when they were 24. My mother still gets angry when my father didn't come to visit her when i was born because he was too busy chasing his dreams and career. It was 20 years ago but now the time has changed. Today, childcare is one of the most important topic for all new parents who are planning to have children. Today's society and education that we are getting teaches us to take this matter seriously and raise our children with our presence all the time. But i am afraid that if i marry right now and have children i won't be able to cope with all these problems, like; family time, childcare and i don't expect that from my wife too because here in the United States we are all busy chasing our goals and career. I think when we talk about having children we are not just talking about our needs but we will have to consider basic children needs too which includes; adequate love, discipline and moral values. At the moment i am not sure how can i play my role of being a wonderful father and that what bothers me all the time. It's not that i don't want to have any children in my life but i think i am not prepared to be that father who can spend more time with his children and bear a responsibility of raising them nicely with a good learning environment.